woman-grassThe ‘you’ who you are, maybe?

Life is pretty fast-paced these days. You have to put your best foot forward at any endeavour, be it professional or personal, to be of any consequence. With so much happening, life could be a constant marathon of proving your worth out there while taking care of your loved ones back home. Women do have multi-faceted talents that help them play multitude of roles sincerely. But in the rut of life, it is easy to forget one thing – to be in touch with who ‘you’ are.

This ‘you’ I am talking about is you stripped of all labels – mother, wife, daughter, CEO, manager etc. This ‘you’ is your core that you meet when you go ‘within’. Since the world today is so outward-inclined that it takes a lot of active intent and will power to even glimpse within. The significance of going within can’t be emphasized enough because that’s what gives a conscious direction to your life, as opposed to your life being a series of unprepared reactions to whatever comes up.

By going within, I don’t mean any spiritual mumbo-jumbo, nor can everyone take off to the Himalayas. It could be as simple as sitting in a park for a while and just being in that moment.

Here are some ways you can incorporate in your busy schedules to nurture the most important person in your life – you.

First of all, turn off excuses: Like – who’s got the time? Think instead that this is the only time you have, once gone it is not going to come back. One always (almost magically) finds time for what they think is important. Another common feeling is guilt about spending time on oneself instead of on family. I say, you would contribute more to family welfare, and more lovingly, if you are nourished yourself. And who wouldn’t like a more radiant you?

Talk to yourself: May sound crazy to some, but benefits of self-talk are astounding. We do have chatter running across our heads all day anyway. Why not do it consciously and know what we really want and what is bothering us? Some people prefer writing or journaling their emotions. Choose any way, you are not going to find a better friend than yourself – ever!

Meditate: Take small steps if you are not the meditating kinds, like being in silence for some time or saying a small prayer before you go to sleep or offering some gratitude right after you wake up. Combine it with your walks or other task if you have to, but have a small ritual everyday that connects you to you.

Take stock of your life: It’s funny how we always analyze our life in retrospect. It’s important to know where we are and where we are heading… at the moment.

Make a bucket list: As clichéd as it may sound, do make a list of what you absolutely want to do before you die. These are the things that qualify your life as life and not a humdrum routine.

Exercise your right brain: I can go on and on about excessive usage of our left brains in our lives these days. Balance is the key. Let the creative you come to fore once in a while.

Go out in nature, read, listen to music, get massages, run, swim, sing, dance, write, cook, paint, take YouTube lessons if you can’t attend classes, do what you always wanted to do but thought of doing later.

The point is you only get to live once as you. Don’t get lost in the grind.

(Published in Biz Divas magazine - April 2015)
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Dinakshi is a curious explorer of life, and loves to see everything around her with a sense of wonder. Completely in awe of life and its ardent student, she is a writer, poet, blogger and ex-editor. Her superpower is involuntarily read and edit everything from text messages to poetry on the backside of trucks. Like any other Indian worth their salt, she’s done her time in the IT industry as a programmer. Books and journals have been her best friends for as long as she can remember. A philosopher at heart, she loves to question everything, including her propensity to question. An avid learner and unlearner, she is on a joyful path to live all that is.